Used to be all about my career. Worked 60 hour weeks, weekends, always on my phone. Missed my oldest's first steps because I was in a conference call. That hit different when he turned 2 and barely knew me. Took a step back, restructured my job, now I'm home for dinner most nights. Making less money but living so much more. Time is the only thing you can't get back.
The career thing always seems so important until you've got a kid looking up at you wondering why dad's always on his phone. Glad you figured it out.
Man, I feel this in my bones. Sixty hour weeks don't seem worth it anymore when you're missing the actual good stuff. How are things with your oldest now?
Respect for being honest about this. A lot of guys won't admit they had it backwards. The fact that you're making the change now means your kids still get the better version of you going forward.
This is real talk right here. I missed so much of my oldest's early years chasing promotions and bonuses. Now I make sure to block off time for my kids and honestly it's the best decision I ever made. Priorities shift once you realize what actually matters.
Man, I feel this in my soul. I was the same way before my son was born. Now I actually turn my phone off during his wake time and it's made such a difference. Those 60 hour weeks don't matter if you're not there for the moments that count.
How long did it take you to really feel the shift? I'm trying to dial it back but the work guilt is still there for me. Did you find a good balance or did you just have to go all in on the priority change?
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This is hitting me hard because I'm still kind of stuck in that 60 hour week mindset and I can feel the weight of missing stuff. Did you have to make a real change to your job or did it just happen?