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How parenting changed my marriage completely

4d ago1 min read

Me and my wife used to be those couple that went out every weekend, traveled, just lived for ourselves. Had our first kid at 28 and everything flipped overnight. We barely have time to talk most days. We're not the fun couple anymore, we're the exhausted couple. But I gotta say, watching her be a mom did something to me I can't explain. We're closer in a different way now even if we haven't been on a date in months. Different chapter entirely.

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MMiguelRegular2d ago

How long did it take you to adjust to that shift? My wife and I are still kind of grieving the freedom thing and trying to figure out if we're supposed to just accept that's over now.

DDerekRegular3d ago

The good news is those weekends out do come back eventually when the kids get older. Right now the chaos is intense but it's temporary. We just booked our first trip away from the boys since they were born and I'm honestly pumped.

DDanielRegular2d ago

We used to be the same way. Honestly it took getting the kids into school and having actual scheduled time where we could breathe. Even just Saturday breakfast while they're still asleep helped us remember we were a couple first.

MMatt B.New Dad4d ago

That's real talk right there. We had to learn that parenting and marriage are different chapters but they're in the same book. It's tough but worth working through together.

MMike P.Regular4d ago

Everything shifts when that first kid arrives. We used to be all about travel and spontaneity too, but honestly hiking with the boys is its own kind of adventure now.

CChristopher T.New Dad4d ago

Man, I get this from both sides since I split time between two houses. Those couple moments you do get become way more intentional and meaningful when there's less of them.

SStevenRegular2d ago

This is real. Me and my wife were like that before our first kid and now we're just trying to remember each other's names some days. The spontaneous trips are gone but there's something different about it now. Not better or worse, just different.