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I used to be the guy who never wanted kids and now I have three

6h ago·1 min read

Five years ago I was completely different. Travel, late nights, no responsibility, and honestly I thought having kids would ruin my life. Met my wife and everything shifted. Had our first kid and something just clicked. Now I can't imagine my life any other way. I don't miss the old me at all. The freedom I thought I needed was actually just emptiness. Anyone else have this total identity flip?

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RRyan M.New Dadjust now

People don't get it until you have them. My buddies used to give me crap for bailing on late nights out and now they're starting to get it with their own kids. The shift is real.

FFelix R.New Dadjust now

Same exact journey here. Five years ago I would've said you were crazy. Now I genuinely don't want to miss stuff. The weird part is how fast it happens.

KKurt D.Regular6h ago

This is awesome to read. Three kids and a complete mindset shift sounds like you found something way better than those late nights ever were.

TTony M.Regular6h ago

Love this story. Life really does shift when you meet the right person and have kids. Mini golf with my 6yo is literally the highlight of my week now, never thought I'd say that.

LLucasRegular6h ago

Man, that's a wild transformation. I was in a similar headspace before my kids came along. Now weekends at the playground feel like the best use of my time, honestly.

SSteveRegular1h ago

This is wild because I was the same way before my kids came along. Travel, sleeping in, no one depending on me. Now I'd rather be home grilling with the family on a Saturday than anywhere else.