Lost 80 pounds and found out my marriage was broken

4d ago1 min read

Started getting fit after my dad had a heart attack when I was 40. Got serious about the gym, cut out the fast food, the whole thing. Dropped 80 lbs over 18 months and felt amazing. But somewhere in that journey my wife and I stopped connecting. Turns out when you're making big changes to yourself you can't ignore the stuff that's been broken for years. We're working through it with a therapist now. I don't regret the weight loss at all but I wish I'd done the mental work at the same time instead of after.

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MMikeNew Dad2d ago

Congrats on the transformation. That took serious discipline. Hope you're doing okay with everything else that came up.

EEdRegular3d ago

That's a heavy combo right there - getting fit and realizing your marriage was broken at the same time. Are you still hitting the gym hard or did that take a backseat with everything else?

PPhil M.Regular3d ago

80 pounds is serious work. Sorry the marriage didn't work out but glad you found out who you are in the process I guess. Your dad doing okay after his scare?

BBrandon H.New Dad3d ago

Sometimes getting healthy shows you things you weren't ready to see. How are the kids handling the split while you're adjusting to all these changes?

EEdRegular4d ago

That's a powerful wake-up call with your dad. The fitness part is huge but man, I'm sorry about the marriage stuff. That's heavy. Did you two try working through it or was the distance just too much by that point?

BBrandonRegular4d ago

80 pounds is incredible work. Really. But I gotta ask - do you think the fitness journey exposed problems that were already there, or did changing yourself make your wife feel like she needed to change too? Asking because I'm always worried about that balance.