Lost 80 pounds and lost my identity with it

2w ago1 min read

Hit my goal weight 6 months ago after two years of grinding. Everyone's congratulating me, I look better, clothes fit, way more confident physically. But here's the weird part: I don't know who I am anymore. I was the big funny guy for so long. That was my thing. Now I catch myself waiting for people to acknowledge the weight loss and then I realize how pathetic that sounds. My whole life was about that goal and now that I'm here I'm kind of lost. The health is amazing and I wouldn't go back but the identity shift is real and nobody talks about that part.

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WWade G.Regular2w ago

This hits different because you've basically been reborn physically but the inside hasn't caught up yet. The confidence boost is real but it sounds like you're searching for the next version of yourself, which is honestly the hard part.

MMarco R.New Dad2w ago

I get this. After losing weight myself, I realized I'd been using the goal as my personality for so long that I didn't know what else defined me anymore. Have you thought about finding a new hobby or challenge that doesn't revolve around your body?

MMiles B.Regular2w ago

Man, that's a real thing that nobody talks about. You built a whole identity around the grind for two years and now you gotta figure out who you are without that mission. Congrats on the physical transformation, but sounds like you need a new project to pour that energy into.