Lost 80 pounds and realized I didn't know who I was anymore

2w ago1 min read

Started at 285, down to 205 now. Everyone's telling me how great I look and congrats, you must feel amazing. And I do physically, but honestly I'm kind of lost. Spent so much mental energy on the weight loss that I didn't think about who I am beyond that. My whole identity was wrapped up in being the big funny guy. Clothes don't fit right now (good problem to have I guess), I feel weird in social situations, and I'm not sure what I actually enjoy anymore because I was always just the joke guy. Anyone else hit this wall after a major change?

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DDerekRegular2w ago

80 pounds is incredible work. I get what you mean about not knowing who you are though. Maybe that's actually the good part - you get to figure out who you want to be now without carrying that around. Could be exciting if you let it.

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RRonRegular2w ago

Congrats on the weight loss man, that's a serious accomplishment. But yeah, the identity thing is real. You spent so long focused on the goal that suddenly achieving it leaves a weird gap. What are you thinking about filling that space with?

AAdam K.New Dad2w ago

This is such a real thing that nobody talks about. You crushed a goal but now there's no clear next mountain to climb. Have you thought about what you actually want to do with your time and energy now that the weight loss isn't consuming everything?