Lost my marriage and found myself

6d ago1 min read

Divorce was the hardest thing I've ever been through. Spent about a year just spiraling. But somewhere in that mess I stopped blaming her and started looking at my own stuff. Went to therapy, joined a group, actually started dealing with my anger issues instead of just white-knuckling through. I'm a better dad to my kids now even though I don't see them every day. I'm more present. I listen better. Do I miss what we had sometimes? Sure. But I don't miss who I was. The person I've become is worth what I lost to get here.

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MMichaelRegular5d ago

This takes guts to post. Divorce was rough for us too but the kids actually seem better now that the tension is gone. Glad you're on the other side of that year.

JJasonRegular5d ago

That spiral year is real man. I'm still in it a bit honestly. How long before you felt like you were actually finding yourself instead of just surviving? Looking for some hope here.

JJasonRegular6d ago

Respect for being real about this. A lot of guys just white knuckle through it. What was the turning point for you?

MMike R.New Dad6d ago

Man, that shift from blaming to owning it is everything. I've been there with the co-parenting thing and honestly that mindset change made all the difference for how I show up for my kids now. Proud of you for doing the work.

CChris T.Regular6d ago

This is real growth right here. Takes guts to spiral and then crawl back out, and even more to actually learn from it instead of staying bitter. That's the kind of dad energy your kids are gonna feel.

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