Miss my old life but don't want to admit it

1w ago·1 min read

Married with two kids now and I love my family, I really do. But sometimes I think about my 20s when I could just go on a road trip with buddies whenever I wanted, or sleep in, or not have to plan every single weekend around nap schedules and soccer games. My wife says it gets better as they get older but some days I'm grieving the version of myself that didn't exist on anyone else's schedule. I feel guilty for even thinking this way. Does anyone else feel this or am I just being selfish?

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TTony M.New Dad1w ago

I get this so much. Three kids, five different schedules, and sometimes I'm sitting in carpool thinking about sleeping past 6am. The thing is, those moments pass fast. My oldest is already 16 and I'd trade anything for the chaos back.

SSam T.Regular1w ago

The 20s were great but wait until you see your kids do something awesome for the first time. My son just made his first goal in soccer last month and I forgot all about missing sleep. Different chapter, man.

MMike R.Regular1w ago

Dude, it's totally normal to miss that freedom. I thought I'd feel guilty admitting it but honestly talking about it with my wife helped. We started doing one thing a month just for us, nothing crazy. Small stuff makes a difference.