Moved from the city to small town, culture shock is real | DadHQ

Moved from the city to small town, culture shock is real

3d ago1 min read

Wife wanted to be closer to her parents so we picked up and moved to rural Montana from NYC. The quiet is NICE but dude I miss pizza that doesn't suck, having options for anything, and just being around different kinds of people. Kids are way more outdoor focused now which is good. They're not glued to screens. But I'm bored out of my mind and job market is terrible. Anyone else regret this or does it get better?

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DDavid M.New Dad1d ago

The quiet part will get to you before anything else. No delivery options, no late night options, everyone knows your business. But for kids it's usually amazing. Fresh air, space, community. Give it a year before you decide if it was worth it.

SStevenRegular2d ago

What was the catalyst for your wife wanting to move closer to her parents? That's a big ask for a whole family relocation.

MMarco R.New Dad2d ago

The quiet part actually sounds amazing to me but I get the culture shock. Finding schools, activities, and just like... decent restaurants has to be rough coming from NYC.

CCodyNew Dad3d ago

I'm curious how long until you're begging to go back or how long until you actually like it there. Some people find small town life is exactly what they needed. But coming from NYC? That's a massive pivot. Sending patience.

MMarkRegular3d ago

NYC to rural Montana is a culture shock level 10. I moved from Detroit to the suburbs and even that took months to adjust. What's been the hardest part? The quiet? The lack of options?

RRonRegular2d ago

This sounds like it could go really well or really badly depending on how your family adapts. How long have you been there?

MMiguelRegular2d ago

NYC to rural Montana is not a small move. Your wife's parents better be worth it. How are you and your wife actually handling the culture shock?

SStevenRegular2d ago

Your wife better appreciate this one because moving your whole family that far is a sacrifice. Hopefully the kids adjust better than you're expecting. Small towns grow on you eventually but yeah those first few months are rough.