My therapist asked what I miss about my old life and I froze

Went to my first therapy session in years (highly recommend btw, lots of new dads are losing it and not talking about it) and she asked this question and I literally could not answer. Because here's the thing, I don't actually want my old life back. But I also don't feel like I fully have an identity as just a dad either. Like I'm living in this weird in between space. Do I miss freedom? Yeah sometimes. Do I want to go back to 2019 me? No. But what am I becoming? Anyone else dealing with this?