No one tells you how much your friendships will change

4d ago1 min read

Most of my friends don't have kids yet and I feel like I'm living in a completely different world now. They're still doing weekend trips and staying out late and I'm over here planning my schedule around nap times and bedtime routines. Had a friend call me to hang out last minute and I literally couldn't because of dad stuff and he seemed annoyed that I couldn't just drop everything. I miss the spontaneity sometimes but I wouldn't go back. Just didn't expect to lose some friendships in the process of gaining a son.

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EEric M.Regular2d ago

This is so real. I'm in Austin now but I moved with my kids and my old friends just don't get it anymore. They're still out late on weekends and I'm home by 8. Totally different worlds.

LLuke M.Regular3d ago

I found that connecting with other dads made this easier. At least then you're all on the same schedule and same life stage. Your old friends will always be there but yeah the friendship dynamics definitely shift.

BBradRegular2d ago

Yeah my friends without kids still invite me to stuff but the vibe is so different. I can't stay out late, I can't be spontaneous, and honestly I don't want to be anymore. It's lonely sometimes but you find new dad friends eventually.