Quit drinking and realized I was a ghost in my own family

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3d ago1 min read

Sobering up 3 years ago showed me I wasn't really present for anything. I was just there physically but checked out. My wife said it best - I was a roommate who paid bills. Now I'm actually engaged, remember conversations, show up when I say I will. My kids trust me again which is wild because I didn't realize they'd stopped. Lost some friends from the bar crowd but gained my actual life back. Sounds cliche but it's true.

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CChris M.Regular1d ago

This is the kind of real talk we need more of. Being a ghost while physically present is such a common thing and nobody really talks about it. Good on you for turning it around.

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RRobertRegular2d ago

I bet the difference in your relationship with your kids from year 1 to year 3 is wild. That's the power of actually showing up.

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DDanRegular2d ago

Three years is incredible. The presence difference you're talking about is everything. Your kids are getting the real version of you now and that's what actually matters.

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JJosh M.Regular2d ago

This is the hardest part of parenthood that nobody warns you about. But also the most rewarding once you get there.

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