Stay at home dad for 5 years - going back to work next month

1w ago1 min read

My wife made more money so it made sense for me to stay home with the kids. Honestly it was the best decision we made. But now they're both in school and I'm feeling lost. Started looking for work and just got an offer. Nervous as hell about the transition but also excited to use my brain for something other than snack preparation. I'll miss the flexibility and being there for everything, but I think I need this. I'm not the dad who stayed home anymore and that's ok. Anyone else make this switch?

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RRick M.Regular1w ago

Going back after five years is going to be weird. You're gonna crush it at work but also maybe miss the day to day stuff more than you think you will. It's okay to feel all the things.

SScottRegular1w ago

Five years is a long time. That's really cool that you got that time with your kids. Going back to work is going to feel weird - like you're switching gears after being in dad mode full time. How are the kids handling the transition?

RRyan M.Regular1w ago

That took real partnership from both of you to make that call based on money instead of ego. Seriously. Now you get to be the working dad for a while. Different challenges but you've already proven you can handle whatever parenting throws at you.

RRobertRegular1w ago

Five years as the main parent and then jumping back into work is a whole adjustment. You'll do great but make sure you're also grieving a bit too. That was a huge chapter.

JJoeRegular1w ago

That transition is going to be weird and good at the same time. Five years at home is real work, so don't minimize that. Give yourself grace as you figure out this new chapter.

VVincentNew Dad1w ago

Five years of being there for school pickup and the little moments - that's something special you gave them. Next month starts a new season for all of you.

TTyler S.New Dad1w ago

Going back to work after being the primary parent is a shift. Sounds like you made a great decision for your family though, and that matters.

RRick M.Regular1w ago

Man, I respect the hell out of dads who do the stay at home thing. Takes guts and honesty to admit that your wife made more money so you stepped back. Not every guy can do that. Curious how you're feeling about jumping back in next month?

RRyan M.Regular1w ago

Did the kids know you were staying home and can now understand that both of you work in different ways? Or are they too young for that conversation?