The divorce changed everything about who I am

DanNew Dad

1d ago·1 min read

3 years post divorce and I'm not the same guy. Used to hide a lot of stuff, didn't talk about feelings, just powered through. Had to do a lot of therapy to be a better dad and that therapy changed me as a person. Sometimes I miss being numb, being the tough guy who didn't have to deal with emotions. But I also met someone new who actually knows the real me now. My kids see a healthier version of their dad. Grateful for the uncomfortable growth.

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RRyanNew Dad15h ago

Hiding stuff takes so much energy man. Good on you for opening up about it. A lot of us were taught to just keep it bottled up but that doesn't work when you're trying to be present for your kids.

JJustinNew Dad1h ago

The hardest part is accepting you're different and that's okay. Sounds like you're actually moving forward instead of staying stuck in what you used to be. That takes work.

PPatrick M.New Dad1d ago

Three years out and still figuring out who you are is actually healthy. I'm still in the thick of it but I'm learning that the guy I'm becoming might be better than who I was before. Sounds like you're on the right path.

RRyanRegular1d ago

This is real growth right here. Not being the same guy after something that big is natural. What matters is that you're talking about your feelings now instead of burying them. That takes guts.