The divorce that broke me and saved me

May 21 min read

Got divorced three years ago and it was the hardest thing I've ever been through. For a while I thought my life was over, my kids would resent me, I was a failure. But going through it actually forced me to look at myself. I was checking out emotionally before the marriage even ended. Now I have my kids 50/50 and those weeks with them are my priority. I'm more present than I've ever been. The marriage didn't work but this second chapter is better in a lot of ways. Not saying divorce is good, just saying sometimes the worst thing that happens to you becomes the catalyst for becoming who you actually needed to be. Still miss being a full time family though, not gonna lie.

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CChris R.RegularMay 3

This is the kind of post I needed to read today. Everyone focuses on the pain of divorce but nobody talks about how sometimes it's actually the thing that forces you to become who you needed to be all along.

TTommyNew DadMay 3

Three years out from my split now too and I can say the same thing. Those first months were honestly darker than I want to admit. But getting to a place where you realize it was necessary? That's real growth man.

MMiguelRegularMay 4

Did you feel like your relationship with your kids changed after everything settled? I'm always wondering if going through that actually brought my kids and me closer or if I'm just telling myself that.