The guy who thought he'd never change after becoming a dad
I was that guy who swore he wouldnt turn into his father or lose his identity or whatever. Five years and two kids later and I am absolutely my father. I own a grill I actually use. I get excited about lawn equipment. I wear cargo shorts unironically. Do I miss staying out til 2am on weekends? Yeah sometimes. Do I miss sleeping in? Definitely. But I wouldnt trade this version of myself for anything. Turns out your identity doesnt shift it expands. Huh.
The identity thing is real. I thought I'd still be the guy who goes out on weekends and stays up late. Turns out I actually like being home and I get excited about bedtime routines now. My pre-kid self would be confused.