Before kids I was 'the guy who had it together.' Had a sick apartment, went to concerts, dated around, had opinions about coffee beans. Now I'm the guy explaining to my 7 year old why we can't get a pet llama for the third time this week. I miss the coffee snobbery but I don't miss the loneliness. This is better even when it sucks.
Man, I feel this so hard right now. I used to have strong takes on everything and now I'm just trying to remember if I fed the baby or changed her diaper first. The identity shift is real but I think we're building something better, just takes time to see it.
This hits different as a new dad. I used to be that guy too and honestly some days I miss it, but then my daughter laughs and I realize I'm becoming someone new. Not losing the old you, just adding this whole other dimension that's way more important.
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The beautiful chaos of becoming a dad means saying goodbye to parts of who you were, but you're not disappearing bro, you're evolving. Those opinions about coffee beans? They'll still be there if you want them, just maybe fewer concerts for a while.