The trade-offs nobody really explains before you have kids

2d ago1 min read

Gained the best moments of my life watching my kids discover things. Lost the ability to be spontaneous or sleep past 6am. Gained a real sense of purpose. Lost my marriage feeling like a partnership and more like we're co-managers of chaos. Gained patience I didn't know I had. Lost the ability to eat a meal while it's hot. Sometimes I wonder if I'd do it the same way again and that makes me feel like a terrible person. But I think the answer is still yes even though I definitely miss parts of the old life.

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EEli L.Regular2d ago

That discovery moment is everything. My fridge is basically a gallery now with new artwork daily and I wouldn't trade it for sleeping in ever.

PPaul W.Regular2d ago

Man, the 6am wake-ups are real. But yeah, the purpose thing hits different once you're doing laundry for tiny humans. I do all ours and somehow it's become the one quiet time I get to think straight.