Two years divorced and finally figured out what actually makes me happy

2w ago1 min read

I spent the first year after the split chasing the lifestyle I thought I'd lost. Dated around, tried to be young again, kept telling myself this was my second chance. Then I realized I was just running. This year I've been doing the actual work - therapy, rebuilding relationships with my kids, learning to enjoy my own company. I miss the excitement sometimes but I don't miss being miserable. I'm actually comfortable in my own skin now which I don't think I ever was before. Not looking for anyone these days and that feels weird and good at the same time.

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AAlexRegular2w ago

Chasing the lifestyle you thought you lost is such a trap. Glad you got past that because your kids need a dad who knows who he is, not a guy trying to be 25 again.

KKarl J.Regular2w ago

Love this perspective. Two years out is when you finally stop performing and start living, you know?

GGreg W.Regular2w ago

This is real growth man. Took me a while as a new dad to stop thinking about what I was missing and start appreciating what I actually have right in front of me.

LLucas M.Regular2w ago

Takes real strength to turn that corner. A lot of guys never do. What changed for you between year one and year two?

EEricRegular2w ago

This is real. That first year after split is brutal because you're trying to fill the void with whatever feels good in the moment instead of figuring out what actually makes you happy. Sounds like you found it.