Used to be the guy who went out 4 nights a week, now I'm home by 8pm

1w ago1 min read

Before kids I was basically living at bars and concerts. Had a pretty solid friend group and we'd always have plans. Now I'm 39 with two kids under 5 and honestly I haven't been out past 10pm in like 2 years. Sometimes I miss the freedom and the conversations that didn't revolve around nap schedules. But last week one of my old buddies came over and after 20 minutes of standing around I realized we don't have that much in common anymore. I guess that's just growing up but man, getting old is weird.

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TTylerNew Dad6d ago

Single dad here and I'm guilty of wanting to still go out some nights. But yeah those 8pm nights home are becoming the new normal and weirdly I don't hate it. Trade-offs, man.

NNolan D.Regular1w ago

The friend group shrinkage hits different too. Some of those buddies disappeared real fast once kids happened. But you find your tribe - usually other parents at school pickups or little league.

RRobertRegular1w ago

I feel this in my bones. Used to be at every concert and every bar opening in Denver. Now my idea of a crazy Friday night is staying up until 10pm to watch a movie after the kids are down. Life's different but honestly I don't miss the hangovers.