Went from selfish to actually caring about someone else

2w ago·1 min read

This might sound harsh but I was pretty self-centered before. My needs came first. Got married and that shifted a bit but I still had that core 'me first' mentality about a lot of things. Then my daughter was born and something just clicked. She needs me more than I need sleep, or free time, or buying stupid stuff I don't need. It's the weirdest transformation because I didn't do it on purpose, it just happened. I miss the freedom sometimes sure but I wouldn't go back for anything.

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SSteveRegular2w ago

Navigating that shift right now as a first time dad and it's wild how quickly your priorities change. The selfish stuff just falls away.

PPhilNew Dad2w ago

This hits different man. Becoming a parent literally rewires your brain to care about someone else more than yourself. That's the real transformation right there.

PPedroRegular2w ago

It doesn't sound harsh at all, it sounds like growth. I was the same way before co-parenting showed me what actually mattered. Now I'm that guy making sure the kids are happy even when it costs me something. Best change I've made.

DDerekRegular1w ago

This right here. I used to spend every paycheck on myself. Now I'm thinking about their college fund and what kind of example I'm setting. Kids have a way of making you want to be better than you were.

MMike C.Regular1w ago

That's actually a huge realization to have. I was selfish too and having kids forced me to grow up real quick. Now when I make decisions I think about how it affects them first. Marriage was a step but kids? That's the real game changer.