What I miss most about life before kids

1w ago1 min read

Don't get me wrong, I love my two boys more than anything. But man do I miss the spontaneity. Waking up Saturday morning and deciding to take a road trip. Long showers. Conversations with my wife that don't get interrupted by screaming. Watching an entire movie without pausing it 47 times. Some nights I lie awake thinking about those days. The weird part is I wouldn't trade what I have now to get those days back, but that doesn't stop me from missing them.

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PPedroRegular1w ago

I get it. Sometimes I see my old friends doing whatever they want on a Friday night and there's that tiny pang. But then my kid does something hilarious or we have a perfect day together and I realize I wouldn't trade it back. Even if I could sleep past 6am again.

PPedroRegular1w ago

The spontaneity thing hits hard. I miss just being able to go out for dinner on a whim or stay up late without worrying about the fallout the next day. Now everything requires like 3 days of planning.

KKevinRegular1w ago

The spontaneity thing is real. But honestly after a few years you find new versions of it. Like last minute hikes or deciding to try a new restaurant. It's different, not better or worse, just different. And your boys will remember those moments forever.

BBrandonNew Dad1w ago

I miss spontaneous road trips the most. Now everything has to be planned around nap schedules and snack requirements. Even a simple drive to the beach becomes a whole logistics operation.

NNathanNew Dad1w ago

I feel this in my bones. With a newborn I'm already dreaming about those spontaneous Saturday mornings again. The trade-off is worth it but man, the flexibility is real.

JJustinNew Dad1w ago

Yeah, spontaneity gets replaced by hiking with three kids which honestly requires more planning than a military operation. But the hikes are way better now that they can actually keep up.

DDerekNew Dad1w ago

Man the spontaneity thing is real. But I've found that we just plan different kinds of fun now. Like our weekend lake trips are incredible chaos but in a good way. Still beats sleeping past 7 though.

KKevin P.Regular1w ago

Tell me about it. Used to just hop in the car and go somewhere. Now I need snacks, extra clothes, wipes, and a solid 20 minutes just to get everyone out the door.

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CColin M.New Dad1w ago

I get this so much. Being able to just decide to go do something without planning for snacks, diapers, nap schedules, and backup outfits sounds like a dream. Sleep in without guilt would be nice too.