Am I the only one who dreads handoff days?

Dec 51 min read

Like, I love seeing my kids but the actual handoff is always awkward/tense. We usually do it at a parking lot near the school. Sometimes my ex is mad about something. Sometimes the kids are tired and cranky. Sometimes there's tension I can't even identify.

I've started suggesting neutral spots or having my new gf do pickups sometimes just to break up the weird energy. But then I feel like I'm avoiding my own problem.

Does anyone actually... enjoy handoff days? Or is it just universally awkward?

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Comments(6)

AArchie M.RegularDec 6

We switched to me picking up right after school instead of her dropping them off and it helped SO much. Less time for tension to build

RRay C.RegularDec 7

The kids being tired at handoff is the worst because they're already emotionally tired from the transition and then you have to navigate that plus goodbye stuff

WWalter T.RegularDec 7

The kids being tired thing hits different. Mine are always cranky at handoff which makes the transition harder for everyone

IIsaac T.RegularDec 7

You're not alone. Handoff days stress me out more than actual parenting some weeks. The awkwardness is real

CChris F.RegularDec 7

The parking lot handoff is rough. Have you tried switching to meet at a public place like a coffee shop or library? Somehow less tense when there are other people around

DDom F.RegularDec 6

Have you tried texting the pickup info beforehand so there's less talking at handoff? Sounds weird but reduces the 'mad about something' opportunities