Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Got them every other weekend and I feel like I'm not really their dad anymore. By the time Friday rolls around I'm making up for lost time instead of just being normal with them. M
My ex is dating someone and now wants to introduce him to the kids. My son is 8 and my daughter is 5. I'm not thrilled but I know I don't get a say in what she does on her time. Bu
Using my 10 year old as a messenger about custody changes or money needs to happen. He came home and said mom said I need to pay for his baseball camp. Never heard from her directl
She lets them stay up til 10pm on her weekends. I have them bedtime at 8:30. They come back to my house wrecked, crying over everything, can't focus at school. When I mentioned it
Honestly thought it was going to be a disaster. Split Thanksgiving (her family dinner Thursday, my family Friday) and alternating Christmas mornings. My oldest was pretty bummed at
We finally agreed on Friday night through Sunday instead of this weird Thursday-Saturday thing we had going. Sounds minor but it means I can actually take my kids to Sunday activit
Is there a standard way this works? Right now we're just splitting the dependent claim every other year but I've heard there are better ways to do it? Has anyone worked this out wi
Been divorced for 2 years and my ex wants to change our custody schedule AGAIN. Currently it's Mon-Thu with me, Fri-Sun with her. My 7-year-old (Mason) has finally settled into thi
Been reading about it. The kids stay in the house and we rotate in/out. Sounds amazing for stability but honestly sounds logistically insane. Would need an extra place to live when
Remember my post from 2 weeks ago about fighting for Thanksgiving? We went to mediation and my ex agreed to switch it up. So for the first time in 3 years I get the kids Wed-Sun fo
I'm seeing a therapist to work through some stuff from the divorce and to be a better parent. My ex mentioned something casually about hoping I'd "get help" and now I'm wondering i
My 7yo asked yesterday if Mommy and Daddy got divorced because of something he did. Absolutely gutted me. I told him it was 100% an adult thing, nothing to do with him, we both lov
Be honest lol. I'd say we follow ours like 85% - mostly because life happens and both of us are flexible when it benefits the kids. My ex was late picking up last Thursday because
My 13yo son has been refusing to come to my place for the past 3 weeks. He says he's "too busy" with school projects and friends but I think it's because my ex has been badmouthing
So my ex is seeing someone new (found out from my daughter mentioning him casually) and she hasn't told me anything about it. Tomorrow is my weekend and my kids already know this g
My 9yo son told me his mom lets him have screen time way later than we agreed, eats less healthy food, doesn't enforce homework time. I try to keep things consistent but at some po
Been fighting for this for 18 months. Family court, two lawyers, multiple evaluations. My ex fought me hard on it because she wanted child support. We just got the judge's order l
So my ex has been picking up our kids (7 and 9) whenever she feels like it, completely ignoring the Wednesday/Friday schedule we agreed on. Last week she grabbed them on a Tuesday
We switched to a 2-2-3 schedule last month (been doing 50/50 alternating weeks for 3 years) and I'm honestly not sure if it's better or just different. My 7yo seems less disoriente
My son turns into a completely different kid on handoff days. He's fine Monday-Wednesday with me, but Thursday mornings he's anxious, clingy, won't eat breakfast. I'm pretty sure h