Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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The last month my boys (6 and 9) have been way more defiant and moody when they're with me. Talking back, not listening, general attitude stuff. They seem fine at their mom's house
I'm more hands-off, outdoorsy, let them make mistakes and learn. Their mom is structured, scheduled, worries about grades obsessively (they're in 2nd and 5th grade). The kids seem
After 18 months of legal back-and-forth, the judge ruled in my favor. I have the kids (12, 9, 7) full-time now with my ex having them every other weekend plus one weeknight. Honest
My 13yo came home last weekend and mentioned her mom told her I "don't care about spending money on her" because I won't pay for the $300 soccer camp. Like... I literally just paid
Posted this because I was dreading it SO HARD. Last year was a disaster with my ex showing up mad at my parents' place. This year I actually communicated a plan in ADVANCE (wild, I
Our current 2-2-3 rotation is NOT working for my sensitive kids (7 and 9). Too many transitions, they're anxious all the time about whose house they're at next. My ex is willing to
Wondering if it's worth paying for quarterly mediation sessions with a professional just to handle the ongoing stuff (schedule changes, new situations, etc.) instead of it all blow
Been dating someone seriously for 4 months. My kids are 6 and 9. Too early? My ex started dating like 2 months after we split and had her boyfriend around constantly which drove me
My 8yo came home yesterday with a message from mom: "Tell dad the tuition payment is due." Not a text. Not an email. Told through my child. Then yesterday he said "Mommy says you'
Been dating Sarah for about 8 months now. My 12yo daughter knows her, they get along okay, but nothing serious yet. School is doing a thing where parents come watch presentations.
Found out from my 10yo that he met his mom's "boyfriend" last weekend. Didn't get a heads up, no discussion about whether it was appropriate yet, nothing. I'm trying not to lose my
Our kids are with me 3 nights a week and by night 3 they're absolutely wired. I'm doing everything right - no screens after 8, consistent routine, calm environment. But they're bou
Got my custody days back to normal after my work schedule settled down (I was traveling for 6 weeks for a project and had to swap a ton of weekends). This past weekend with my 5, 9
For the last two years, my 5yo has been a nightmare on Halloween because he couldn't decide which house to trick-or-treat from. This year my ex and I coordinated it so he hit both
My custody modification just got approved but holy shit, the lawyer bills. $6k later and we basically just formalized what we've been doing anyway. I know people say "don't go to c
My 5yo asked me yesterday "Why do I have a bedroom at your house AND a bedroom at mommy's house? Other kids don't." I froze. How do you explain co-parenting to a kindergartner wit
Okay this is silly but my 9-year-old made me a "dad of the year" certificate on construction paper during a rainy afternoon at my place. Spelled "year" as "yeer" and everything. W
Been separated 18 months, dating this amazing woman for 6 months. My kids (10M and 7F) have asked about her because they've seen Instagram stuff. I don't want to ambush them but I
My ex and I have too much history to actually "cooperate" on parenting decisions so we basically just run our own households independently. Different rules, different routines, dif
My son is 8 and has always been sensitive to transitions but lately it's ramped up. He gets quiet and clingy the day before he comes to me, won't engage with his mom, and then on p