This is the third time in two months she's asked to swap weekends with barely any notice. I get that stuff comes up but I plan my whole life around having the kids friday through sunday. I've already told her no twice but now shes saying I'm being difficult. Am I wrong for not being flexible here? I feel like I need some consistency too.
I feel you man. Third time is a pattern, not just stuff coming up. You gotta set a boundary or it'll keep happening. Maybe tell her swaps only work if she gives you at least two weeks notice?
That's tough brother. I'd be frustrated too when you're trying to plan activities with your kid. Gotta protect that time you have together.
This is exactly what those communication apps are for. Get it all in writing so you have a record. Makes these requests harder to do casually.
Third time in two months is a pattern, not a coincidence. You need to start documenting this and either having serious conversations about reliability or potentially talking to your lawyer about enforcement. This affects your ability to plan.
I feel this. My ex pulls the same stuff. You're being nice but you don't owe her constant flexibility if she's not reciprocating. Set boundaries or it'll keep happening.
How are your kids handling the constant changes? That's what I'd focus on. Stability matters more than keeping the peace with your ex.
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Yeah that gets old fast. With three kids I learned the hard way that saying yes to last minute changes just trains them to keep asking. Stick to your schedule unless it's actually an emergency.