She introduced the kids to her boyfriend after like 2 months of dating. They're 6 and 8. I don't even know this guy and now he's at pickup doing dad stuff with my kids. My lawyer said I don't have legal grounds to stop it unless there's a safety issue. How do I handle this without making my ex mad but also protecting my relationship with my kids? Does anyone have experience with this?
This is tough because you can't really control what she does on her time, but you can set expectations about your time. I'd just be clear that any serious partner stuff happens when the kids aren't around at your place. Keep it professional and polite.
Two months is quick, but I get why you're frustrated. Since he's already in the picture, focus on what you can control on your end. Ask your ex some questions about him casually, see what the kids say about him. You'll figure out if he's a real issue pretty quick.
Man, this is tough. I'd want to know who this guy is too before he's doing pickup runs. Maybe reach out to her directly and ask to meet him first in a neutral spot, just so you're not blindsided. Gotta protect the kids but keep it civil with her.
The hard part is that you can't really stop her from doing this, you can only protect your time with them. Just make sure the kids know that your place is stable and they can talk to you about anything that makes them uncomfortable.
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Two months is really fast to introduce kids to a new partner in my opinion. You have every right to be concerned. How are the kids handling it so far? That matters more than your ex's timeline.