So my ex has been trading weekends with me constantly because of her new boyfriend. I get that people have lives, but I've turned down plans with my girlfriend multiple times to stick to the schedule we agreed on. Emma's 8 and I feel like she's getting confused about when she's supposed to be at my place. Do I need to lawyer up over this or am I being petty?
Document everything. Keep a calendar of every swap she requests and what you agreed to. When it comes time to enforce the original schedule in court, you'll have solid proof of the pattern. My lawyer told me this saved my case.
New relationship energy is real and it sucks when it affects your time with the kids. I'd suggest proposing a formal amendment to the custody agreement if she needs more flexibility, but don't just keep accepting these last-minute changes. Sets a bad precedent.
Yeah man, this is frustrating. The thing is she can't just change the custody schedule whenever she wants because she has a boyfriend. That's literally what the court order is for. Have you tried sitting down and having a conversation about sticking to what was agreed?
This happened to me for almost two years. Sounds petty but I started saying no to trades unless I got something in return, like extra time the following month. Suddenly she wanted to stick to the schedule more closely.
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Been there. The new boyfriend phase will wear off but your resentment about the inconsistency won't if you let it keep happening. Set boundaries now or you'll be dealing with this forever.