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Can we just acknowledge that co-parenting communication apps are weird?

Nov 29·1 min read

Like, I'm literally texting my ex about our kids through an app because we can't text each other normally anymore. It feels dystopian. Everything is documented, formal, logged. I miss just being able to text like "hey my bad, can you grab diapers" without it feeling like a court proceeding.

Obviously they're necessary when things are bad. But does anyone else find the whole thing a bit sad?

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Comments(5)

PPete A.Regular20h ago

This is actually a feature though not a bug. Having everything documented protects you if custody stuff gets messy. I know it feels weird and dystopian but it's better than he-said-she-said arguments.

CChris R.Regular14h ago

Yeah it's weird. I use OurFamilyWizard and I get what you mean - it feels so formal and sterile compared to just texting a coparent normally.

MMike T.Regular23h ago

The 'court proceeding' vibe is REAL. I hate how every message has to be so careful and polite when in a normal relationship you can just be casual. But I guess that's the point of the app.

WWes B.Regular11h ago

I feel you on this. The app feels like you're both performing for an audience even though it's just between you two. It changes the dynamic completely.

DDex J.New Dadjust now

It sucks but honestly I prefer it to trying to text my ex normally. When we tried that it turned into arguments super fast. At least the app keeps things professional.

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