Six months into the new schedule and my kids are actually doing great. My 6yo's teacher said he's more focused in class, my 12yo's grades came up, and they seem less anxious about transitions.
I think a lot of it is just that the routines are finally solid and predictable. No more guessing games. Feels good to see them settling in instead of white-knuckling their way through everything. 🎉
This is everything. The anxiety part gets overlooked but kids actually thrive when they're not stressed about moving between homes. Glad the new schedule is working
Six months to see real results is solid. A lot of people give up after 2-3 months when it feels awkward. Props for sticking it out
How long did it take before things stabilized? We're 3 months in and kids are still having some rough mornings on transition days
This is huge. Most people don't realize how much the anxiety of transitions affects school performance. Props to you for making it work
The fact that your 6yo is more FOCUSED in class might be the best indicator here. Kids that settled know the routine, brain isn't constantly bracing for change. You did good
That 12yo grade improvement though - that's real. Less emotional labor = more brainpower for actual school. You've figured out something a lot of co-parenting setups never crack
The grades improvement for your 12yo is huge. Co-parenting wins where the kid actually benefits are rare enough that they deserve celebrating. You and their mom are doing something right
How'd you guys land on this routine? Asking because we're about to adjust ours and want to hear what's working for you
Your 6yo being more focused - was that immediate after the schedule changed or did it take time? Thinking about overhauling ours and wondering what the timeline looks like
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Can you share what changed in the new routine? Not asking for details but like... is it more consistency, more stability with one parent, what actually shifted?