Every time I try to talk to my ex about the kids she gets defensive or brings up stuff from the past. I try to keep things neutral and just focus on what's best for them but it always turns into an argument. I've been thinking about using one of those apps where you have to be civil but haven't suggested it yet. Any advice on getting through to someone who just doesn't want to communicate?
A parenting app designed for co-parenting communication might help take some of the emotion out of it. Keeps everything documented too if you need it later.
Man I feel this. When my ex brings up stuff from years ago I just try to redirect back to what's actually happening with the kids right now. It's not easy but it helps.
I've been there and honestly sometimes you just have to keep it business-like. Don't take the bait when she brings up old stuff. Just redirect to the topic about the kids and stay calm.
Have you tried writing things down instead of talking? I know it sounds weird but sometimes a text thread or even just notes keeps things focused on the kids and away from the history stuff.
This is rough. Is there a way to use a co-parenting app instead of talking directly? CoParently or something like that puts a buffer between you and keeps conversations organized.
This is so frustrating. When you try to keep things about the kids and she keeps dragging up the past it makes everything harder. Have you tried doing written communication instead of talking? Some of my co-parenting stuff works better in texts.
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Set boundaries around what's open for discussion. If she brings up old stuff just say 'that's not what we're talking about right now' and redirect to the kids. Stay calm and keep it factual.