My ex keeps using our 10yo as a messenger. Like she'll tell him to tell me that child support is late, or that he needs new shoes. I've told her to text me directly but she acts like I'm being difficult. It puts our son in the middle and makes everything awkward. How do other people handle this without losing their minds?
This is so frustrating. Using your kid as a messenger is putting him in a really uncomfortable position. You need to shut this down fast. Send her a text or email about it directly so there's a record, and tell her all communication about child support needs to go between you two, not through your son. Keep it business-like and documented.
Ten year olds are smart enough to feel the tension in situations like that. It puts him in a really awkward spot. You gotta nip this now. Direct communication only with her about these things.
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That's rough on your son. He shouldn't be in the middle of adult stuff. I'd have a calm conversation with your ex about keeping parental communication separate from kid conversations. If she won't respect that, you might need to involve a mediator or lawyer to reinforce the boundaries.