My 8 year old came home saying mom said I forgot to pack his inhaler on purpose to 'make her look bad.' I would NEVER do that. He asked me if it was true and I didn't know what to say. I'm trying to keep things civil for the kids sake but she keeps putting them in the middle. Do I need to go back to the lawyer over this or am I overreacting?
Eight is old enough to see through manipulation, but he shouldn't have to. Send your ex a message about the inhaler incident in writing so there's no confusion next time. Keep it factual, not emotional.
My oldest came home with similar accusations once and it killed me. Document your prep routine with photos if you have to. Co-parenting is exhausting but you're doing right by keeping it about the kid, not the drama.
That's rough, man. Don't let your kid be the messenger for this stuff. Tell him calmly that you would never do that and that sometimes adults disagree, but his safety is always first. Then text your ex directly about medical stuff - creates a paper trail.
That's rough having him come home with that kind of stuff. Kids shouldn't be put in the middle like that. Have you tried asking for direct communication only with your ex so the kids aren't the message carriers?
That's so messed up. Your kid is 8 and doesn't need to be caught in that. The inhaler thing is serious too, that's using the kid as a pawn in a bad way. You need to shut that down directly with your ex or maybe through a mediator.
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Whoa, using your 8 year old as a messenger for accusations is not okay. That's parental alienation territory. You might need to document these things and talk to a lawyer about communication boundaries.