Every text turns into an argument about something stupid. She takes things the wrong way, I get defensive, and before I know it we're rehashing stuff from the marriage. We have a 4 year old together so I have to keep dealing with her for the next 14 years at least. My lawyer said to use a coparenting app but I'm not sure if that will even help. Has anyone used those apps? Do they actually work?
Every text turning into an argument is exhausting and it's bad for the kids too. Have you guys tried using a co-parenting app like OurFamilyWizard? It forces you to keep things factual and less personal.
This is the co-parenting trap. You get defensive, she interprets it as hostile, spiral happens. I'd recommend keeping texts super short and businesslike. Nothing emotional, just facts and logistics.
How long have you guys been co-parenting like this? Sometimes it helps to remember you're on the same team even though it doesn't feel like it during those text wars.
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Man that's rough. The 'takes things the wrong way' dynamic is so hard to break once it starts. Maybe try texts that are even MORE neutral than you think you need? Like business memo style.