Communication with ex is still hostile after 2 years

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Mar 41 min read

We've been separated for over two years and she still texts me angry about things that have nothing to do with the kids. Last week she sent a paragraph about how I'm a failure as a parent because I let our son have soda at my place. I try to keep it civil for the kids but man it's exhausting. We use a co-parenting app now but she still sends personal jabs. Anyone else dealing with this?

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RRyanNew DadMar 5

Two years is a long time to be stuck in that cycle. Have you tried communicating through a co-parenting app like OurFamilyWizard? Takes the emotion out of it when everything's documented and formal. Might help her realize that hostile texts aren't getting her anywhere.

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RRyanNew DadMar 4

Have you considered asking her if she'd be open to talking through a mediator? Sometimes having a neutral third party helps reset the tone. Just a thought.

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MMike R.RegularMar 5

I feel this. The anger just lingers sometimes. What helped me was setting boundaries about what we discuss via text. Mom stuff only, no rehashing the past. Took a while but eventually she got it.

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