Every text turns into an argument about something. She twists my words, brings up old stuff, and it's just exhausting. Started using a co-parenting app to keep things neutral and documented but she won't use it. Should I just keep all communication in writing via email so there's a trail? We have two kids together so I can't just go no contact.
The twisting words thing is so frustrating. I'd suggest keeping texts short and factual, no explanations or justifications. Just "I have him Tuesday at 5" not "I have him Tuesday at 5 because I need to..." She can't twist what isn't there.
Man that sounds draining. You might need a mediator or family counselor if it's this bad. Just trying to co-parent shouldn't feel like a battle.
I feel this in my bones. The twisting words thing is exhausting. Sometimes it helps to respond with something super factual and short - don't give her anything to argue about. Gray rock method.
Sorry you're dealing with this. Have you talked to a family lawyer about setting up more structured communication rules? Might help protect you both.
This is rough. Toxic communication makes everything harder, especially when kids are involved. Have you thought about using a co-parenting app like OurFamilyWizard? Keeps everything documented and removes the emotion from messaging.
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Man, this is rough. Have you considered doing communication through one of those co-parenting apps like OurFamilyWizard? Takes the emotion out of texts when everything gets documented. Helped me avoid a lot of circular arguments.