Communication with my ex is impossible

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4d ago1 min read

Every time I text my ex about the kids it turns into an argument. I'll ask something simple like what time to pick them up and somehow we end up fighting about something from years ago. We've got 3 kids and 8 more years of custody together and I can't do this for another decade. Has anyone tried like a co-parenting app or something? I feel like we need a buffer between us because direct communication is toxic.

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AAustinNew Dad2d ago

I feel this in my bones. With my ex it got so bad that we switched to a co-parenting app just for scheduling and kid stuff. Removed the emotion from it somehow. Now I only text about logistics and she does the same. Game changer honestly.

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RRobertNew Dad3d ago

Man that's rough. Have you tried keeping messages super short and factual? Like just the info needed with no room for interpretation. I learned the hard way that longer messages give more room for things to get twisted.

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AAustinNew Dad3d ago

This is exactly why my lawyer told me to document everything. Every text, every pickup, every agreement gets saved. Sounds cold but it protects you and keeps things professional.

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