Just realized our agreement from 2 years ago doesn't really spell out summer vacation details. With school ending in 3 months I need to figure this out with my ex but I don't want to open up a whole legal battle. Should I try to work it out informal first or get the lawyer involved right away? She's been reasonable mostly but I want to protect my time with the kids.
This is such a common gap in agreements. You need to either amend the current one or get it in writing somehow before summer starts. Don't just assume you can figure it out when June rolls around.
This is so common and honestly kind of a ticking time bomb. You need to get that in writing ASAP with Andrew. Summer break is like 8-10 weeks depending where you are. Who gets first pick? Alternating years? Specific weeks? Sort it now before June hits.
Summer was a nightmare for us because of exactly this. Get with a lawyer now and get it updated before school ends. Trust me on this one.
Even if it's just an email agreement between you and your ex that you both sign off on, get something in writing. When summer is chaotic the last thing you need is confusion about the schedule.
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We ran into the exact same thing. Ended up sitting down and doing a full amendment to the agreement. Took like an hour, saved us from a potential nightmare. If your co-parent is reasonable, just propose something fair and get it signed.
Don't wait on this. Summer camps book up early, grandparent visits get planned, work schedules get locked in. Get it sorted within the next month if you can.