Custody exchange getting heated

1w ago·1 min read

Started doing pickup and dropoff at McDonald's parking lot instead of the house because things were getting tense. But now even that's becoming a thing. She showed up 20 minutes late yesterday and when I said something about it she said I was being controlling. The kids are picking up on the tension and I hate that. We're supposed to be doing this for them. Should I go back to court to modify the agreement or is there a way to make this work?

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Comments(5)

LLucas H.New Dad6d ago

Good call on moving it off the property. Even if the kids don't see the conflict directly, they can feel the tension. Public spot is way better for everyone's sanity.

MMarcusNew Dad6d ago

We've been doing the parking lot thing for about a year now and honestly it's been a game changer. Takes the personal stuff out of it when you're not in either person's space. Keeps it business-like which somehow makes it less heated.

VVictor R.New Dad1w ago

I feel for you. When every exchange becomes stressful it wears you down. Sometimes you need to keep it super brief and businesslike, just about the handoff.

AAndy T.Regular1w ago

Neutral ground like the parking lot is smart, but if tension is still creeping in there you might need a third party to help mediate or maybe suggest a formal exchange service.

PPhil M.Regular1w ago

McDonald's parking lot is actually smart. Keeps things neutral and civil. We tried the house handoff for a while and it always turned into a 20 minute argument about something stupid. The parking lot rule takes the emotion out of it.