Custody schedule - am I being unreasonable wanting 50/50?

Aug 3·1 min read

Separated almost a year ago, been doing 60/40 in her favor the whole time. Kids are 8 and 11. She keeps saying they're "attached to her" and need more stability with her, but I'm equally involved, we're only 10 minutes apart, and they love being with me. When I brought up 50/50 during our last conversation she got upset and said I just wanted this to "punish her." I literally just want to be equal with my kids. Is that actually unreasonable? Thinking about bringing it up with our mediator.

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CChris M.RegularAug 5

No, you're not. Equal time with your kids is something you should be fighting for. I was in a similar spot and it took some mediation but we got to 50/50 and it's been way better for everyone including the kids. They get consistent time with both parents.

DDanny L.RegularAug 4

You're not being unreasonable at all. A year at 60/40 is a long time and if you're an involved parent who wants equal time with your 8 and 11 year olds, that's totally legitimate. 50/50 is pretty standard for separated parents. Have you talked to her about why she wants to keep it at 60/40?

JJoeRegularAug 4

Nope, seems totally reasonable to me. Kids that age benefit from having equal access to both parents. If you're asking for 50/50 because you actually want to be involved, that's not unreasonable at all.