Custody schedule working but dreading holiday handoffs

2w ago1 min read

Been divorced for 2 years now, 50/50 custody with my ex. Everything's smooth during the regular week but man, holiday transitions are getting harder. My 7 and 10 year old get confused about where they're supposed to be on certain days and my ex keeps changing what time is best for pickup. Anyone else dealing with this? Thinking about suggesting we nail down specific holiday schedules in writing so there's no room for confusion. The kids shouldn't have to stress about where they're going on Christmas morning.

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PPedroRegular2w ago

This is the hardest part of co-parenting honestly. Regular weeks are fine but holidays feel like you're splitting the actual meaning of the day. Have you and your ex talked about maybe adjusting the schedule for major holidays, or are you trying to stick with the 50/50?

MMike C.Regular2w ago

The holidays are when this stuff stings the most. My advice is plan something low key on your off days instead of trying to force big moments. Kids feel the tension more than they enjoy fancy plans when custody is involved.

KKyleNew Dad2w ago

Holiday handoffs are rough, no matter how smooth the rest works. I do the same thing, things are easy until November hits. What's giving you the most stress about the handoff specifically?

PPaul W.New Dad2w ago

Two years in and you're still managing the emotional weight of holidays differently. That's real and valid. I'd say plan everything way in advance so there's no last minute chaos or confusion on the actual day.

DDanielRegular2w ago

The regular routine is easy once you've got it dialed in. But holidays add that extra emotional layer, plus everyone's schedule gets weird. Just communicate with your ex about what works and stick to it.

MMiguelRegular2w ago

Holiday swaps are rough. Two years in is usually when the routine stuff feels normal but holidays bring all the emotional weight back up. You doing anything special to make the handoffs less awkward during the season?