Custody swap schedule falling apart - need reality check
Been doing 50/50 with my ex for about 2 years now (kids are 7 and 9). The original schedule was Mon-Wed with me, Thu-Sat with her, alternating Sundays. Sounds simple right? Except now she's started picking them up early "when she can" and dropping them off late, and I'm supposed to just roll with it. Last week she texted at 4pm asking if she could grab them at 5 instead of 6. I had already made dinner plans.
I don't want to be that guy who's rigid about everything, but this is affecting my ability to plan literally anything. When I tried bringing it up she said I'm being "controlling" and that kids benefit from flexibility. Maybe she's right? But I also feel like the whole point of a schedule is so both parents can count on their time. Am I being unreasonable here?
The "kids benefit from flexibility" argument only works if BOTH parents are on board with being flexible. You clearly are not, and for good reason. That's not flexibility - that's one parent unilaterally changing things and the other parent eating the costs.
she called you controlling for wanting to stick to a legal agreement you both signed? lol ok. that's manipulation. don't fall for it.