Custody swap schedule nightmare - 50/50 Monday-Thursday vs Friday-Sunday

4d ago1 min read

Been divorced for 2 years and my ex wants to change our custody schedule AGAIN. Currently it's Mon-Thu with me, Fri-Sun with her. My 7-year-old (Mason) has finally settled into this and his teacher said his grades improved. Now she's pushing for alternating weeks because her new job has "better flexibility." I'm pretty sure this is really about her boyfriend's schedule.

Has anyone dealt with repeated schedule changes? My lawyer said I could push back but it'll cost me. Just frustrated because every time we switch, Mason regresses a bit with homework and acting out. Feels like we're always in chaos instead of actually coparenting.

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WWill R.Regular2d ago

Don't let her change it. Teachers see the pattern - if Mason is settled and doing well, that's what matters. Document that stability bc courts do consider it. You have leverage here even if it doesn't feel like it

PPete Y.Regular4d ago

This is exactly why I insisted on keeping our schedule the same even when it wasn't convenient. My son did SO much better once he stopped having to mentally prepare for switches every 3 days. You're right to be protective of this

HHank C.Regular2d ago

Get it in writing that you want to keep the current schedule. If she's pushing for change, don't just have a conversation - make your position official. Protects you both legally

HHector R.Regular1d ago

Oof the constant custody juggling is rough on kids. Even if her new schedule makes 'sense' on paper, the fact that Mason finally has stability matters more than optimization. I'd push back hard on this one

EEd R.Regular2d ago

The teacher comment is KEY. When you push back, mention that observation. Schools literally document when kids thrive vs struggle and that matters in custody decisions