Got the kids this weekend and they seemed distant. My ex has been making comments about how I'm not as available as she is and I think they're picking up on that narrative. I work long hours but I'm still paying child support and trying to be present. It's starting to feel like no matter what I do I'm the bad guy. Any advice on how to build the relationship back up without badmouthing their mom?
Don't give up on those weekends. Kids can be weird and distant for a lot of reasons, not necessarily because of what your ex says. Keep doing your thing and the relationship will come back.
That distance feeling is rough. I've found that doing something they love during your time helps break through it. Don't let her narrative become their reality - your presence matters just as much as hers does.
This hits hard because I've been there. The ex's comments can really mess with your head and sometimes they do get into the kids' ears. Just keep showing up and being consistent - they'll figure out the truth on their own over time.
Sorry you're dealing with this. Parental alienation is serious stuff. Make sure you're documenting her comments and behavior if she's actively trying to turn the kids against you. This might need legal attention.
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This is tough. The distance you're feeling sounds real but also sounds like something your ex might be feeding into them. Kids pick up on that stuff. Best thing you can do is keep showing up and being present when you have them.