My ex is picking up the kids on Saturday morning for her weekend and honestly it's stressing me out more than usual. We've been getting along okay but I still feel that tension and awkwardness. Plus the kids always seem a little different when they come back. How do you guys handle this regularly without it eating at you?
The hand off is always tough. I do 50/50 with my ex and those Saturday mornings still get to me sometimes. What helps me is remembering they need both of us and they're gonna have an amazing time with mom. Take care of yourself that day.
That anxiety before the swap is real. Try to keep busy that morning if you can. Makes the time go faster. And remember the kids love both their parents. It's not about choosing.
Is it the actual handoff that stresses you or being without them? Those are two different things to work through. Happy to talk through it if you need.
The handoff is always the tough part. I feel this in my soul. What helps me is texting my ex the night before just to confirm everything - takes away the uncertainty and lets me mentally prepare. Sometimes the dread is worse than the actual swap.
That Saturday morning feeling hits different man. Two weekends of no kids can feel good at first but then it gets quiet. What do you usually do with your free time?
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Is it the goodbye part that gets to you or something else? I used to get knots in my stomach every time too. For me it helped to have a little goodbye routine with the kids so it felt less abrupt.