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Different parenting styles are driving me crazy
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Dante J.New Dad
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She lets them stay up til 10pm on her weekends. I have them bedtime at 8:30. They come back to my house wrecked, crying over everything, can't focus at school.
When I mentioned it, she told me I'm "too rigid" and that kids need to "relax and have fun" with one parent. Which... okay, but then I get to deal with the fallout.
They're 8, 10, and 12. I'm not talking about toddlers here. I'm trying really hard not to spiral into "she's sabotaging them and me" but some days it feels that way.
How much do you just... accept? Where's the line between having your own parenting style and actually needing consistency?
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10pm for 10 year olds on a regular basis is actually rough. That's late even for weekends and of course they're wrecked by Monday. Your 8:30 is reasonable.
The thing that helped us was getting on the same page about school performance. We agreed that sleep directly affected grades and suddenly bedtime became less about control and more about that goal.