Does anyone actually use a parenting coordinator?

Dec 16·1 min read

Our custody agreement includes the option for a "parenting coordinator" if we get stuck on decisions. We're having trouble agreeing on our daughter's extracurricular activities and our lawyer mentioned using one instead of going back to court. Seems expensive but better than lawyers? Has anyone actually done this? Is it worth it or just another middleman taking your money?

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Comments(5)

HHank C.RegularDec 17

Parenting coordinator is worth trying if you're stuck. It's basically a mediator who knows custody law and can actually make decisions if you deadlock. Cheaper than going back to court.

MMiles B.New DadDec 18

What kind of activities are you fighting about? Because sometimes a coordinator's fresh eyes helps you realize you're both being reasonable and there's actually a compromise.

FFred J.RegularDec 18

We used one for school choice decisions. Honestly it was helpful just to have someone neutral say 'okay both of you make sense, here's what the research says.' Took the emotion out.

TTony F.RegularDec 18

It's in your agreement for a reason - use it. Beats spending 20k fighting about ballet vs soccer. They're trained specifically for this stuff.

CCharlie A.New DadDec 18

For extracurricular stuff a coordinator is perfect. You're not fighting about safety or big issues, just disagreeing on activities. They can help you see the actual problem instead of just the surface fight.