I know logically it was the right call and we're both better off apart, but man some days I just feel terrible about what this has done to the kids. My 5 year old still asks if mom and dad are getting back together. The guilt hits different on those days. Anyone else dealing with this?
Divorced too and yeah some days hit harder than others. But you know what? Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for and they need to see you happy and at peace. That's worth something.
That guilt is real and honestly it's probably a sign you care about your kid's wellbeing. The fact that you feel it means you're thinking about how to do right by them. That matters.
Have you talked to a therapist about it? Not saying you need to but that guilt can eat you up if you let it. Just something to consider.
I think that guilt is pretty normal and honestly it shows you care. The fact that you're thinking about this stuff means you're being intentional about how you parent through the divorce. That counts for something.
Some days hit harder than others, I get it. But you're doing the work to stay present for them and that's what matters. The guilt fades but the good parenting sticks around.
The guilt will probably always be there a little bit but it gets easier. What helps me is focusing on being present and consistent on my days. That's what my kids remember.
That guilt is real even when your head knows it's the right choice. I still get those days where I'm watching the kids laugh and I think about how we're not all together anymore. It's tough but they seem good, and that matters.
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The guilt can hit hard, yeah. But remember your kids are picking up on whether you're at peace with it or stressed about it. Them seeing you handle this okay is worth more than forcing a situation that doesn't work.