Does anyone else's ex use the kids as a guilt trip?

Dec 6·1 min read

I had my 7 and 9 year old last weekend and they came back saying 'mom said we could go to Disneyland but we can only go during her weeks so you won't get to see it.' Like... that's a pretty blatant move right? I haven't said anything to the kids about it bc I don't want to put them in the middle, but man it gets under my skin. Not even looking for advice here just needed to vent. Anyone else dealing with this specific flavor of pettiness?

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PPhil K.RegularDec 6

My ex does similar stuff and honestly the best move is to just not let it get to you. Take the kids when you have them and do fun stuff. She'll look bad eventually

RRussell D.RegularDec 6

Yeah this would piss me off. You might need to have a conversation about parenting decisions not being weapons against the other parent

DDanny R.RegularDec 9

does your custody agreement say anything about major expenses or trips like that? Because if she's making promises she can't keep that's partly on her not the kids

MMatt W.RegularDec 7

Have you talked to your lawyer about this? Because using custody weeks to punish you by excluding the kids is pretty textbook manipulation

RRandy S.RegularDec 7

That's such a manipulative move. She's literally trying to create a situation where you're the bad guy either way

GGreg M.RegularDec 8

The fact that she's putting your kids in the middle of this is the real issue. They shouldn't be told 'dad won't let you see this thing.' That's on her