Ex is poisoning the kids against me
My 8 year old came back from her moms and said that his mom said I quote left because I didn't love them enough. I'm furious. I have them 50/50 and I bust my ass to be there. The custody order says we can't bad mouth each other but she's doing it anyway. Do I lawyer up again? I'm already paying 1200 a month in support and I'm exhausted by this. How do other guys handle this?
That's heartbreaking man. I've been through similar stuff with my kids and honestly the best response is showing up consistently and being the dad they know you are. Kids figure things out as they get older. Keep being present.
An 8 year old repeating something their mom said word for word is a red flag. Make sure you're having calm conversations with your kid about what really happened, not correcting them but letting them know your truth. It matters.